Well hello hello! Hope y'all had a wonderful week? Mine was a bit long but it was good and my heart is filled with joy and gladness because God has been totally amazing.
Yesterday two years ago I lost my grandma and it was a tough time for my families, I'm thankful that we've grown stronger since then. I have written and said this in the past "no one can steal the memory of her love from us and no one can heal the hurt". She was the greatest woman I knew/know, with a beautiful soul. I have so much to tell my readers but I'm not ready to share some things just yet but hopefully soon I would be able to write about somethings.
Anyhoo, I was inspired to write this post when I opened 'The Entertainer' magazine. It's a Nigerian Magazine like 'Ovation' and the 'Hello's' of London. A Colleague brought it to work and I decided to look through after work...
I'm not the best of writers out there not even close to being one of the best but I try to read and proof-read before I put up a post. I use short forms cos it is not a professional blog. However, reading some articles and interviews in this mag, it was safe to come to a conclusion that there was absolutely no editing and if indeed an editor existed, it was certainly a poorly done job; cos I would think people pay to read for substance and quality. You know..., It was simple errors such as "How do you meet your wife" as opposed to "did". I mean... just the little details that add the hmmph to a good read.
One interview in particular that caught my eye was that of a married couple who had dated for 6 years and were being interviewed about how they met, the sort of advise they'd give to other couples blah blah blah. Without being condescending, the very question that got me was "how did u know she was the one and how did u propose?" The husband replied, "We had dated for 6 years and it was the right thing to do, I didn't have to propose. Her parents knew me, my parents knew her so there it was at the right time we did the introduction and the rest is history. The bride's reply was "We don't always go with the western culture, we just knew marriage was the next thing, he didn't propose we planned the wedding for a year or more"
One thing every one is entitled to is their own opinion and this is mine - feel free to differ. 6 years of dating doesn't mean the right thing to do is get married. If my future husband were asked that question and gave an answer as silly as these two I would be very furious. In fact there is no way he would be saying that...lololol that's just a silly imagination. Why wouldn't a man say something like "I knew she was the one because before I met her, I thought my world had everything I needed to be happy and when she walked into my life, everything changed and I realised how empty my world was without her in it as my old life was no longer capable of making me happy without her" Yes I love romantic guys and I've got lines hehe: there's never a boring moment with them.
On the other hand, the girl should have said something like" I knew he was the one because he is the most unique person I have yet met and I knew I wanted to see the world through his eyes cos he challenges me and loves me in a way no one ever has...I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life without him" or something... Comon' I felt this was a weak answer for a newly wed in my opinion. I mean, isn't it meant to be the time u are kinda love drunk or something of that sort and answers are meant to be cheesy, funny, and cute.
Two, I am in no way saying a marriage without proposal is bad, but we live in the 21st century and as much as we have and stick to our traditions; there are some things we should get accustomed to e.g. Proposals. Yes you can both know you want to be together forever but guys should propose. Future husband had better be close friends with my sister, she'll tell you the right buttons to push. Truth is, just as my parents and theirs before them had tons of stories to tell about their very romantic beginnings, I refuse to allow that tradition end with me :D.
Saturday 26 May 2012
Tuesday 15 May 2012
Ms. Ebony, How Was Your Night?!?
How was your night? Hmmm....
I got the inspiration to write this from my very own April Laugh. I have noticed that quite a number of people ask me this question (I don't want to be specific) but i'll say it 's common among Nigerians. I don’t find this question annoying, offensive or rude. I simply want you to be patient with me when you ask the question and careful to listen as I relate the response back to you. Most people ask this question not particularly 'cos they want to know, but 'cos it seems polite to ask before jumping in to the subject of the conversation. They ask and expect to get back responses such as 'good', 'fine', or 'ok'.. And most often than not, they don't want to hear u say 'bad' or go into detail about ur night because they aren't as patient and even worse, it will kill the essence of their chat which would probably at this time become less about them and more about you.
I don't like the question much cos I find it somesort intrusive and eliciting a lot of detail (which probably isn't my business anyways) as opposed to 'did you sleep well'? Then again the normal Good morning, how are you? ...and work? may yet be better options.
A few weeks ago, a friend called me around 10am and after the usual greetings, she popped the question 'How was your night?' before I could say it was 'good' or make any comment at all she started a whole new conversation. At that point I was confused, cos I sort of noticed this trend with a few other people. Do people ask this question because they think it’s a compliment? Or they just ask it out of having nothing to say? Or they just want to seem polite? I would really like to understand the concept behind this fad.
I’ll love to reply my dear friend now: and this is me going a little over board explaining how that night was...
‘‘Thanks B for asking! My night was one of a kind, a good one as well. But wait! What time does my night start again? When I get home from work or after I have had supper?
Either ways, I'll start from when I got off work...I got on the 7.26pm train from work and got home round about 8.16pm. I started this whole eating healthy habits or rather healthy eating habits :) where I don't eat after 8 o'clock. But it was past 8 and I kept contemplating to eat or not to eat? I turned on the TV flipped the channels and tried to watch some news but my mind wasn't listening. I decided to get on skype with my cousin, and after about an hour I remembered I had lunch at 1.30pm so it wasn't exactly wise not to have something for supper. It was a few minutes to 10 and my cousin made me feel better about eating late (better late than never ay !) or rather how wise when I could have had a smaller portion around 8.30 ?!? After the much contemplated meal, I spent about 2 hours reading a book "convicted or condemned" (amazeballs.com) and decided it was time to head off to bed. "At least, most of my food would have digested" (I thought). I said my prayers and off I was in dreamland.
I forgot to close me laptop so at about 3.40am I was woken up by a call on skype I would have attended to it but I couldn't be bothered as I knew it couldn't be an emergency neither was it a love interest...
I think that was about it that night... (the night u asked me about). So dear reader, how was your night? Honestly??
I usually don't ask cos I'm not patient enough to listen so I'd rather ask and be asked instead, "Did you sleep well?"
I got the inspiration to write this from my very own April Laugh. I have noticed that quite a number of people ask me this question (I don't want to be specific) but i'll say it 's common among Nigerians. I don’t find this question annoying, offensive or rude. I simply want you to be patient with me when you ask the question and careful to listen as I relate the response back to you. Most people ask this question not particularly 'cos they want to know, but 'cos it seems polite to ask before jumping in to the subject of the conversation. They ask and expect to get back responses such as 'good', 'fine', or 'ok'.. And most often than not, they don't want to hear u say 'bad' or go into detail about ur night because they aren't as patient and even worse, it will kill the essence of their chat which would probably at this time become less about them and more about you.
I don't like the question much cos I find it somesort intrusive and eliciting a lot of detail (which probably isn't my business anyways) as opposed to 'did you sleep well'? Then again the normal Good morning, how are you? ...and work? may yet be better options.
A few weeks ago, a friend called me around 10am and after the usual greetings, she popped the question 'How was your night?' before I could say it was 'good' or make any comment at all she started a whole new conversation. At that point I was confused, cos I sort of noticed this trend with a few other people. Do people ask this question because they think it’s a compliment? Or they just ask it out of having nothing to say? Or they just want to seem polite? I would really like to understand the concept behind this fad.
I’ll love to reply my dear friend now: and this is me going a little over board explaining how that night was...
‘‘Thanks B for asking! My night was one of a kind, a good one as well. But wait! What time does my night start again? When I get home from work or after I have had supper?
Either ways, I'll start from when I got off work...I got on the 7.26pm train from work and got home round about 8.16pm. I started this whole eating healthy habits or rather healthy eating habits :) where I don't eat after 8 o'clock. But it was past 8 and I kept contemplating to eat or not to eat? I turned on the TV flipped the channels and tried to watch some news but my mind wasn't listening. I decided to get on skype with my cousin, and after about an hour I remembered I had lunch at 1.30pm so it wasn't exactly wise not to have something for supper. It was a few minutes to 10 and my cousin made me feel better about eating late (better late than never ay !) or rather how wise when I could have had a smaller portion around 8.30 ?!? After the much contemplated meal, I spent about 2 hours reading a book "convicted or condemned" (amazeballs.com) and decided it was time to head off to bed. "At least, most of my food would have digested" (I thought). I said my prayers and off I was in dreamland.
I forgot to close me laptop so at about 3.40am I was woken up by a call on skype I would have attended to it but I couldn't be bothered as I knew it couldn't be an emergency neither was it a love interest...
I think that was about it that night... (the night u asked me about). So dear reader, how was your night? Honestly??
I usually don't ask cos I'm not patient enough to listen so I'd rather ask and be asked instead, "Did you sleep well?"
Sunday 6 May 2012
Life Goals'
I was having a talk with my friend the other day when I said “you know.... it’s funny how just a few percentage of individuals have a vision and how the majority simply work towards making that dream happen for them”. I know a good number of us will probably end up working for others and that’s not bad in itself.
For me, it’s always been about being happy: being a part of something bigger than myself and being able to impact lives however I can. I figured that not all work environments would be compatible with this goal or will even be able to provide the sense of fulfilment that I require. I understand that for me it had never being a case of wanting to be an entrepreneur or setting up my own firm but it’s been instead more of having a career in a place where I feel valued and involved. A place where my every idea counts: where I’m not just seen but heard; where I can whistle blow on a malpractice and be supported; where I can balance both work and family.
One where Sundays aren’t dreadful and Fridays aren’t ‘tgif’ inspired. You may wonder if such a place exists. I’m unsure myself but deep down in my heart, I have a place in mind. I’m fuelled by a passion for it and I know it would only but work for me. That’s been my dream and although you may consider it not daring enough, I'm glad it’s not yours but mine :D. Have a lovely week y'all God bless you
One where Sundays aren’t dreadful and Fridays aren’t ‘tgif’ inspired. You may wonder if such a place exists. I’m unsure myself but deep down in my heart, I have a place in mind. I’m fuelled by a passion for it and I know it would only but work for me. That’s been my dream and although you may consider it not daring enough, I'm glad it’s not yours but mine :D. Have a lovely week y'all God bless you
Thursday 3 May 2012
I'll Remember This!
Wooohooo...! Its Thursday...the week went by sooooo fast. It was my birthday on Saturday and I had fun... *huge grin* The initial plan was to wake up, watch some tv and stay home all day.. But all plans failed
For all those who cussed me out shortly after reading my wish list, I suggest you get a blind fold 'cos you won't be happy reading this :) .."I believe in miracles" I most certainly do
Of the 5 wishes I made, 3 got answered... not counting the one gift which I have been promised and still yet to recieve.... Hehe. I received the luxury gift card, the perfume and the wristwatch... The spa is a pending gift scheduled for this month so let's say I got that too which makes it four out of five. I'm so grateful to God, to be honest, I have everything I need. I have an absolutely amazing family that inspire me, great friends some of whom are like family, a good job I love and an amazing life. What more can a girl ask for ay!
Anyways, random thoughts and I thought to share.
Ever read the book half of a yellow sun.... ?? If you haven't you certainly should! Chimamanda is a brilliant writer - a fine combination of beauty and brains. Then again, there's a film adaptation of the book... Amazeballs. I so can't wait to see it!
That awkward moment when ur train buddy starts making passes at you *sigh everything else changes. Yeah... My train buddy. What ever happened to just being cool friends? We talk about the news, the silly train services, the rude inspectors, the differences in job roles....HR and other random talks *smh* now so awkward
My friend's boo is in the army and when he's off for training, she doesn't just miss him....I miss him for her too (That's a Hero).
Finally... I got a writing gig. I'm extremely flattered of course! Not to worry, I'll keep u posted when my first article gets published *smiles* ...and oh, its a paid job. *stoked*. And of course I'll still be blogging on here -this is mine!
For all those who cussed me out shortly after reading my wish list, I suggest you get a blind fold 'cos you won't be happy reading this :) .."I believe in miracles" I most certainly do
Of the 5 wishes I made, 3 got answered... not counting the one gift which I have been promised and still yet to recieve.... Hehe. I received the luxury gift card, the perfume and the wristwatch... The spa is a pending gift scheduled for this month so let's say I got that too which makes it four out of five. I'm so grateful to God, to be honest, I have everything I need. I have an absolutely amazing family that inspire me, great friends some of whom are like family, a good job I love and an amazing life. What more can a girl ask for ay!
Anyways, random thoughts and I thought to share.
Ever read the book half of a yellow sun.... ?? If you haven't you certainly should! Chimamanda is a brilliant writer - a fine combination of beauty and brains. Then again, there's a film adaptation of the book... Amazeballs. I so can't wait to see it!
That awkward moment when ur train buddy starts making passes at you *sigh everything else changes. Yeah... My train buddy. What ever happened to just being cool friends? We talk about the news, the silly train services, the rude inspectors, the differences in job roles....HR and other random talks *smh* now so awkward
My friend's boo is in the army and when he's off for training, she doesn't just miss him....I miss him for her too (That's a Hero).
Finally... I got a writing gig. I'm extremely flattered of course! Not to worry, I'll keep u posted when my first article gets published *smiles* ...and oh, its a paid job. *stoked*. And of course I'll still be blogging on here -this is mine!
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