Remember when I put up a post 'Wifey 101: Supply and Demand'...written by a friend supporting guys and all?!? Well, I have written something some may not entirely agree on...and I was gonna put a lil disclaimer before, cos I wasn't too sure if I was ready to share this. Oh well its a thought, no need to disclaim it so here it goes!
Well... first, it is quite irritating when I hear young men of 24 or 25 or even 27 considering marriage. Don’t get me wrong though! It’s when these guys are still living with their parents having no prospects for jobs that upset me the most. It even gets worse... I think those currently enrolled in the NYSC programme who earn just a few thousands should be slapped and the girls who cheer them on or are eagerly waiting to accept their proposals should be ambushed...lol. I don’t mean to come across as intolerant or brash; I just think marriage in itself comes with a million and one problems so why add to the list, the challenges and discomfort that lack of money breeds. I mean marriage is a different ball game.
I have however observed a pattern. I noticed that on the average, Yoruba young men tend to be lazy. My premise is based on the fact that their peers in other cultures are burdened with paying exorbitantly before getting a bride and as such work twice as hard to alteast pay-off the associated costs. I have come across a good number of Yoruba *sorry to hurt feelings* guys who have no issues living off their girlfriends or wives. They are the ones who support phrases like ‘couples should grow together’ and I agree but does it mean that when one marries a more responsible working class male who can conveniently take care of his family, they are not growing together?!?... (hmmm... smh). My point is, I sincerely believe a guy who is seriously considering settling should ask himself a few questions and the very most important ones being: If my wife doesn’t work or is unable to support the family financially, what sort of life would I be able to give my family? What quality of education would my children get? Would it always be a case of something has to be sacrificed for a need to be met etc...? If you ask me, it’s not asking too much. Its not even about being a gold digger, its just what it is.
Then of course, I am aware that some guys actually work their as* off but still don’t earn so much... 'What then' you may ask?!
The conclusion is that everyone should understand themselves well enough to know under what circumstance they can or cannot cope because there’s no point giving any guy a hard time when you knew his situation but still agreed to go on with it. Truth is, circumstances do vary for different people and one's choice doesn’t make them a saint and another a snob because we never can tell what past experiences have informed each person’s judgement. Just to be clear on my point of view, it would be good you understand that my focus is on marriage and not a relationship
Am i right or am i right :) what do you think?!